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January 31 2018








Hot take but like…. trans people like don’t have to disclose that they are trans if they don’t want to. Trans people can work with you, be friends with you, and yes, even flirt with you, and not have to tell you they are trans. Our existence doesn’t require a full disclosure agreement.

Right up until you date somebody.  Then it becomes relevant to the entire scenario.

so cis people should announce that theyre cis if theyre dating somebody?

If you’re cis, then you look like the sex you were born as.  And as a result, you’re going to likely to have the hardware that the person assumes you have.

If you have a mangled penis, infertile or you’ve had your ovaries removed because of some sort of medical complication, then yes.  You should probably mention that because people date to find somebody they want to marry, which often leads to having kids.

Likewise, not everyone is attracted to vaginas or penises.  If you’re cis, people are going to assume you have the corresponding junk and they won’t be surprised.  Springing your penis or vagina on somebody when you’re getting into bed with them is extremely fucking rude and creepy because you’ve now applied pressure to them in the bedroom.

If something is relevant to sex and the bedroom and goes against the commonly assumed mainstream, you should be informing this person when you start dating.  This is not explicitly for trans people, it is for everyone.  

If you’re infertile, if you have an STD, if your junk doesn’t match what you outwardly present as, if you’re incapable of having sex, if you can only get off of one particular fetish, etc.  Literally all of that is relevant to the other party and should be disclosed to them.

Can we stop trying to make people pretend that things that are uncommon or unusual aren’t uncommon or unusual?

Notice have I literally didn’t say anything about sex in this post but that’s how y’all took it. Like………. can y’all not act like what I said is controversial? Y’all maybe (just maybe) try not calling trans people unusual like that’d be real cool

You said, and I quote:

“trans people like don’t have to disclose that they are trans if they don’t want to. “

You didn’t say anything about sex and that’s the issue.  Your statement was blanket.  You said they don’t have to disclose.  And in general, I agree.  But there are situations where they should disclose it.

And trans people are 0.58% of the population.  That is not usual.  That is not WRONG and that doesn’t mean the same thing as wrong.  I’m gay, that means I’m not usual because I’m a minority.  There is nothing wrong with being gay.

Because the number of trans people in any given population is so low, you should expect your average person not to even consider you to be trans.  It is likely that they assume that if you present as a man/woman then you have the genitals of whatever sex you present as.

There is nothing wrong with what this person or I said.  Nothing about it was disparaging toward trans people, nothing about it was mean spirited.  I added a caveat to your statement because it should’ve been added.

Somebody else in the notes also made another caveat about trans people should disclose their trans status to medical professionals.  Because it will help with their treatment.

So, in short, your statement was just not nuanced enough.  And so people like me are adding that nuance. 


ADHD Problem

Doctor: How long has this been bothering you?


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Female Student Said, ‘I’m Fine and I Wasn’t Raped.’ University Investigated, Expelled Boyfriend Anyway. - Reason.com

Colorado State University-Pueblo suspended a male athlete for years after he was found responsible for sexually assaulting a female trainer. But the trainer never accused him of wrongdoing, and said repeatedly that their relationship was consensual. She even stated, unambiguously, “I’m fine and I wasn’t raped.“ 

That’s according to the athlete’s lawsuit against CSUP, which persuasively argues that the university not only deprived him of fundamental due process rights, but also denied sexual agency to an adult woman. Taken at face value, this case appears to represent one of the most paternalistic, puritanically anti-sex witch hunts ever reported on a college campus. 

But that’s not the only reason this case is interesting. The student-athlete, Grant Neal, has named the Education Department’s Office for Civil Rights as a co-defendant. OCR’s Title IX guidance to universities “encourages male gender bias and violation of due process right during sexual misconduct investigations,” according to a statement from Neal’s legal team. […]

Good news is the university eventually agreed to settle

Not good news. 

Out of court settlements can’t be used as easily for precedent, can’t be referenced, can’t be cited, and don’t contain admissions of wrongdoing. 

This is the school paying for this shit to go away, like people are alleging Hollywood has been doing for decades. 

Also unless everyone with authority who lead to it got fired and blacklisted its asking for a repeat down the line

January 30 2018



if 👏 someone 👏 doesn’t 👏 want 👏 to 👏 reblog 👏 your 👏 shit 👏 DO 👏 NOT 👏 ATTEMPT 👏 TO 👏 GUILT 👏 THEM 👏 INTO 👏 DOING 👏 SO 👏

“likes don’t count!”

yes they do. they liked it. maybe not enough to reblog it. maybe they didn’t WANT to reblog it. it doesn’t matter. it’s their blog. their choices. get over yourselves.


destroy the idea that intermediate goals aren’t important. maybe you can’t play the entire piano piece yet, but you can play the right hand and that’s good. maybe you haven’t figured out your major yet, but your minor or your field and that’s progress. maybe you can’t hold a full conversation in your target language yet, but you can ask for directions and that’s fine. setting high goals is good, but don’t diminish the small goals you achieve on your way there. they are just as important.



like if you make a cashier cry you’re evil! sorry! you don’t get a free pass! you don’t get to stand there and see someone visibly stressed and already doing everything they can to help people and move things along as swiftly as possible and act like a toddler and insult them bc you aren’t getting your way in the snap of your fingers! they’re trying their damnedest! they don’t want to be there but they’ve gotta and that involves dealing w/ ppl and when it comes to that kind of behavior! you’re ugly!

no buts! you’re just evil! sorry if that hurts your feelings but you don’t seem to care about doing that to others so! sucks huh








Endometriosis—the struggle is real.  Killer cramps are NOT normal.  Periods that last longer than 7 days are NOT normal. Heavy bleeding that soaks through a tampon every 2 hours is NOT normal; pain during sex is NOT normal. Bouts of diarrhea and vomiting that accompany every menstrual cycle are NOT normal. No, no, and no!  For many people, this reality is just endometriosis at work.

Sad truth: Many of us are taught to downplay these symptoms. Our pain is diminished by parents, siblings, friends and even health care professionals who convince us that everyone goes through this.

Maybe that is why, according to the Endometriosis Foundation of America, it takes 10 years on average to receive an accurate endometriosis diagnosis. That’s a decade, people! That’s 130 periods of agony, 912 days of someone asking you to take Advil and suck it up.  That…is not okay.

Endometriosis is pervasive.  It affects 1 in 20 Americans of reproductive age and an estimated 176 million people worldwide. It occurs when tissue similar to the endometrium (the lining of the uterus) is found outside the uterus on other parts of the body.  

There are lots of symptoms that can vary among patients.  Pelvic pain is most common, as well as pain that coincides with menstruation.  Other symptoms include heavy cramps, long-lasting bleeding, nausea or vomiting, pain during sex and, unfortunately, infertility.  Some people may even experience symptoms throughout their entire cycle—a real drag.

In addition to these physical symptoms, endometriosis takes a toll on someone’s personal and professional life. Chronic pain can severely affect quality of life day-to-day; medical care can be extremely costly. Furthermore, absenteeism can alter relationships in the workplace and at home.

Despite the intense discomfort, many people do not realize they have endometriosis until they try to get pregnant. And because the disease tends to get progressively worse over time, approximately 30-40% of people who have endometriosis experience fertility challenges.

There is no simple diagnostic test for endometriosis—no blood, urine, or saliva testing can confirm the condition. The only way to verify endometriosis is to undergo a diagnostic laparoscopy with pathology confirmation of biopsy specimens.  

On the bright side, many endometriosis symptoms— including infertility—can be addressed after diagnosis. The gold standard for endometriosis treatment is laparoscopic excision surgery. This involves a careful removal of the entire endometrial lesion from wherever it grows.

The first step to getting there is recognizing that your pain is not normal and seeking timely intervention. The earlier endometriosis is detected and treated, the better the results. Tracking your symptoms will make you better informed for your next doctor’s visit, and set you on a path to better (and less painful!) menstrual health.

For more information about Endometriosis, visit www.endofound.org

oh shit.

Can’t stress enough the early diagnosis part. My mum recently had to have a hysterectomy due to endometriosis and the doctors were like “well, if we’d known about this sooner, a much smaller operation would have been fine and we could have kept the uterus”. Get this shit checked early, guys

beeps, idk who you are on tumblr but if you’re following me, THIS THIS THIS

Wow I had almost every single one of these problems before I started my depo…. Damn. This could have helped some terrible teenage years.

The kinds of people we need in government are precisely the kinds of people who are most reluctant to go into government – people who understand the inherent dangers of power and feel a distaste for using it, but who may do so for a few years as a civic duty. The worst kind of people to have in government are those who see it as a golden opportunity to impose their own superior wisdom and virtue on others.
— Thomas Sowell (1931-) American economist  (via philosophicalconservatism)


it’s so weird that i never heard anybody talk about this, but… one of the things you will notice when you start recovering is that your old coping mechanisms will stop working. they might even start hurting. which is absolutely scary, and you might even find yourself being nostalgic for worse times when you could still give into those impulses and feel the pain ease off for a while. but they stop working because you are healing. take a deep breath. see how far you’ve come. you’ll go much further yet. be proud of yourself.

January 29 2018


If you’re scrolling through tumblr trying to distract yourself from something you don’t want to think about or you’re looking for a sign that everything will be okay, this is it. So, breathe. Relax into this moment. You’re alive & that’s all that matters.

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An artist : Aw man! I saw my arts were reposted on Instagram. I’ve asked them to take my arts down but they ignored me.

Me : Say no more! Click this link, then click ‘fill out this form’. Fill the form and wait for about 1-2 days, the staffs will remove the image you were reporting from the reposter’s account :^)

hope you don’t mind me adding some more info :’D

Many websites have those complaint forms you need to fill out to submit DMCA notice. Here are some of them:

Usually links to those forms can be found on website’s Terms of Service pages. (search for copyright or DMCA)

Any content you’ve created, is copyrighted by you. You have full right to ask staff to delete repost. Your works deserve to be protected. ♥

Scientists find magic mushrooms could help fight fascism



After if we disable parts of your brain with magnets you’ll love immigrants, say hello to…

“If we give people psychotropic drugs they’ll become more liberal”

“And if ever, by some unlucky chance, anything unpleasant should somehow happen, why, there’s always soma to give you a holiday from the facts. And there’s always soma to calm your anger, to reconcile you to your enemies, to make you patient and long-suffering. In the past you could only accomplish these things by making a great effort and after years of hard moral training. Now, you swallow two or three half-gramme tablets, and there you are. Anybody can be virtuous now. You can carry at least half your morality about in a bottle.”

-Brave New World


Good things that come from being on Tumblr for 5+ years:

  • By this point, you’ve either found a blog theme that you like or you’ve completely resigned yourselves to the default themes. Either way, you know longer care about your blog theme and that’s the way it should be.
  • You constantly gain a new appreciation for the, like, five followers that have followed you since the beginning.
  • You have a never-ending library of memes in your blog’s archives
  • If you ever need a pick-me-up, you can go back into the depths of your blog and find old content that you never thought you’d see again.
  • You probably never reblog unsourced/reposted art because you’ve been on Tumblr long enough to remember the original post in the first place.
  • A great appreciation for the updates that actually made the site work better (putting the reblog button at the bottom of the page, for instance)
  • A complete apathy to any sort of drama that this site devolves into.
  • You’ve probably discovered XKit by now and are grateful every day of your life.
  • You’ve seen and/or participated in some of the greatest events on this website, for better or worse (Mishapocalypse, the “reblog this if you’re in _______ fandom” posts, “What color is the sky?”, DashCon and the immediate fallout)

Bad things that come from being on Tumblr for 5+ years:

  • Different day, different discourse.
  • You’ve slowly watched people that you’ve followed for years go through eighty blog changes and that cool SuperWhoLock blog you once liked is now a belly-button fetish blog and you have to wonder where it all went wrong.
  • “Guys we literally settled this argument like two years ago why the fuck are we doing this all over again”
  • Living long enough to see people’s opinions on groups, events, and identities completely flip flop in the course of a couple of years.
  • Your block list is a mile long and full of porn blogs
  • Going from thinking that Tumblr was the best website ever to an old, jaded veteran who just wants to post memes is a very hardcore slide and it’s given me whiplash
  • Posts that you really used to like were deleted a long time ago back before deactivation was a thing.
  • Being 18+ years old on this site and knowing that the opinions of most of the users basically boil down to what minors think is social justice but really isn’t. Their hearts are in the right place…but… well, they’ve got a ways to go.
  • Out of the blue, someone will message you why you don’t post about certain shows anymore and you don’t have the heart to tell them that you haven’t tuned into that show in 4 years.
  • I hate this website let me drink and leave me be.
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movie requests, part 18 (requested by glorfindeliciouss) »

↳ “this is true love - you think this happens every day? ” - the princess bride (1987)







If you’re one of those people who thinks executive dysfunction only happens for things we don’t like (school, cleaning,) then please consider the fact that I’ve been meaning to plug my phone in for 20 minutes and I’m now at 2% and still putting it off to write this post ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

My anime/video game list consists of over 100 titles, easily, and yet I almost never get around to watching/playing any of them.

Executive dysfunction is not just for boring or unenjoyable things. It’s for everything. Even eating.

What is executive dysfunction? O.o

Put simply, it’s difficulty/inability with initiating tasks. The prefrontal cortex is responsible for executive functions, like decision-making and impulse control. People with ADHD and other neurological disorders that affect the prefrontal cortex often experience difficulty making decisions and performing tasks, as well as exercising self restraint. Part of why people with ADHD tend to procrastinate so badly is out of genuine inability to begin tasks, even if they’re very important.

It feels, for me at least, like I’m constantly waiting for something and I can’t start X task because I’m waiting. I never know what exactly I’m waiting for, but that doesn’t stop me from wasting hours and days not doing the things I need to do, even if I have a desire to do them.

It feels, for me at least, like I’m constantly waiting for something and I can’t start X task because I’m waiting. I never know what exactly I’m waiting for, but that doesn’t stop me from wasting hours and days not doing the things I need to do, even if I have a desire to do them.

Oh thank god, someone put it into words.

For me it’s also waiting for the “right” time to come to complete the task because for some reason my brain thinks doing the task at any other time is horribly, horribly wrong, weird, and out of order. The “right” time might come eventually, might not. It’s a lottery.












i told ya we’ve canceled discourse n we’ve moved on to homesteading skills

it’s just choppin wood and harvesting vegetables and herbs from here on out


unironically this

Please hit me with more homesteading concept drawings

Incredible post

Keep it coming!!

gentle reminder


it’s okay to ask to talk to someone when you’re upset, please know that there will always be someone willing to listen to you - it’s not ‘attention seeking’, it’s not annoying; it’s reaching out, and i’m so proud of you for that

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The longer you look, the sadder it gets

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why is there an american flag just chillin on the wall there is that normal

Yes they are in every classroom in America

Is that sarcasm


do…do other countries not put their flags in all their classrooms??

Why would we put up a flag in a classroom? Are people afraid the children would forget which country they are in?

My favorite thing about the multicultural nature of Tumblr is watching people from other countries learn that America is much, much worse than they ever dreamed.

We have the flag there for the pledge of allegiance. In Texas we also have the Texas flag for the Texas pledge.

for the what

I want to know the non American response to the fact that Christian schools frequently not only have the American flag for the pledge but also a pledge of allegiance to the Christian flag and the bible also


I went to an American Christian school for seven years and can confirm this. We also had to sing the anthem and the C-H-R-I-S-T-I-A-N song every day

Yeah we had to sing onward Christian soldiers every chapel or school meeting thing. At least our daily songs varied, just a few children’s church songs with the bible lesson.

But serious question, I know of at least 2 versions of the Christian pledge, which one did y'all use?

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